The first three months of your baby’s life is one of the most important times for bonding and attachment. Much development is still taking place in the tiny body and it can be a challenging time for your newborn as they adjust to the outside world. Luckily, there are many ways to bond with your newborn in a comfortable way that is beneficial for both you and your little one. 

Bonding and attachment involve how you respond to your baby’s needs with warmth, love, and care. Through this, you will be a trusted and special person throughout your baby’s life.

How to bond with your newborn 

Between taking temperatures, feeding and putting your newborn to sleep, there are some techniques you can try to create a strong bond with your newborn. 

Skin-to-skin contact 

For centuries, it has been known that babies respond very well to touch. One of the best ways to do this is by holding your baby close on your bare chest. This technique is known as skin-to-skin contact. The warm connection can keep your newborn’s heart rate, stress levels and temperature stable. 

Eye contact 

A lot of communication can happen between you and your baby during close eye contact. When holding your baby at close range, it stimulates emotional and intellectual development, and creates familiarity and ease.

Verbal communication 

The sound of your voice is one of the most soothing things your baby will ever hear. Therefore, it is important to talk, read or even sing to your newborn often. This way, you invite your little one to participate in your relationship. It’s also a great way to relieve stress and relax your little one’s mind. 

Gentle massages 

As mentioned in the first point, touch is essential. A gentle massage after a bath or after feeding can stimulate blood flow and reduce stress levels. This technique is an easy and beautiful way to bond with your baby every day. 


During the first three months, your baby still craves the secure feeling of being in your womb. An effective way to create that physically feeling of safety is by wrapping your newborn in a cosy blanket. When you provide good head and neck support, your baby will feel relaxed, secure and safe. 

Each relationship is unique

Bonding is essential for all babies and most infants are ready to bond immediately. However, you as a parent may feel overwhelmed at times. It may take a bit longer to create a secure attachment and bond with your newborn, and this is completely normal. What is important is that you try different techniques to see what works for your unique relationship with your baby. Over time, you will improve your baby’s sense of security and self-esteem. Remember, you are enough and the attachment will grow over time.